uglylilmonster:

pardonmewhileipanic:

thefemcritique:

lestieloftus:

How most people with invisible illnesses are treated by health care “professionals”

The Golden Girls didn’t fuck around

pls watch

honestly i really appreciated this scene when I first saw it bc it took me like two years to get a diagnosis for what’s wrong with me

Dorothy: Dr. Budd?

Dr. Budd: Yes?

Dorothy: You probably don’t remember me, but you told me I wasn’t sick. Do you remember? You told me I was just getting old.

Dr. Budd: I’m sorry, I really don’t–

Dorothy: Remember. Maybe you’re getting old. That’s a little joke. Well, I tell you, Dr. Budd, I really am sick. I have chronic fatigue syndrome. That is a real illness. You can check with the Center for Disease Control.

Dr. Budd: Huh. Well, I’m sorry about that.

Dorothy: Well, I’m glad! At least I know I have something.

Dr. Budd: I’m sure. Well, nice seeing you.

Dorothy: Not so fast. There are some things I have to say. There are a lot of things that I have to say. Words can’t express what I have to say. [tearing up] What I went through, what you put me through—I can’t do this in a restaurant.

Dr. Budd: Good!

Dorothy: But I will!

Dr. Budd’s date: Louis, who is this person?

Dr. Budd: Look, Miss–

Dorothy: Sit. I sat for you long enough. Dr. Budd, I came to you sick—sick and scared—and you dismissed me. You didn’t have the answer, and instead of saying “I’m sorry, I don’t know what’s wrong with you,” you made me feel crazy, like I had made it all up. You dismissed me! You made me feel like a child, a fool, a neurotic who was wasting your precious time. Is that your caring profession? Is that healing? No one deserves that kind of treatment, Dr. Budd, no one. I suspect had I been a man, I might have been taken a bit more seriously, and not told to go to a hairdresser.

Dr. Budd: Look, I am not going to sit here anymore–

Dr. Budd’s date: Shut up, Louis.

Dorothy: I don’t know where you doctors lose your humanity, but you lose it. You know, if all of you, at the beginning of your careers, could get very sick and very scared for a while, you’d probably learn more from that than anything else. You’d better start listening to your patients. They need to be heard. They need caring. They need compassion. They need attending to. You know, someday, Dr. Budd, you’re gonna be on the other side of the table, and as angry as I am, and as angry as I always will be, I still wish you a better doctor than you were to me.

South Park: The affect of Abuse and ACEs on Behavior

cheylouwho:

One thing that’s been a hot topic in the SP fandom as of late is the discussion of how the behavior (both past and present) of the child characters are affected by the experiences we’ve seen/heard about in canon. Today we’re going to talk a little about three of the most damning cases; Cartman, Tweek and Butters.

Disclaimer 1: This analysis will contain several mentions of childhood trauma such as abuse, neglect and sexual relations. Please be mindful that you have been warned.

Disclaimer 2: This is for the sake of analysis and application of knowledge that I (and those in the SP analysis discord) have. We are in no way professionals. I am only a preschool teacher so my knowledge in the field of abuse and neglect is limited to what I’ve been taught and what I have witnessed/experienced. Please take the speculation with a grain of salt… maybe even the whole shaker. Just dump it in your mouth and enjoy almost 4,000 words of fully sourced “its not that deep, fam”.

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itsybitsylemonsqueezy:

Some Important Things I Need To Say About Edward Nygma:

Ed is very likely autistic and does not process emotions the same way neurotypical people do. He’s not good at reading others’ emotions or understanding his own. This means he has TERRIBLE, impulsive reactions to just about everything and he doesn’t think things through.

Ed is in love with Oswald, he just doesn’t know it yet.

His attachment to Kristen Kringle, and to an even greater extent Isabella, is a performance. He’s reading from a script, following cues, behaving as he believes he’s supposed to behave in this situation. But with no real grasp of what his feelings actually are, again, because he struggles to read and understand them.

Witness how Ed hasn’t mentioned Kringle hardly at all since killing her, and how short-lived his guilt was. How quickly he jumped from sorrow to gratitude, with almost no refraction time.

Witness how Ed BARELY mentions Isabella the ENTIRE time he’s torturing Butch and Tabitha, how he gets way more wrapped up in the actual design of his plot than misguided revenge. How he doesn’t even THINK to make sure Butch has actually done it, doesn’t ask about details of the killing, or accuses him properly, which is how he is so taken aback when Butch lies about it.

Witness how, while no doubt Isabella’s murder is one of many reasons Ed is hopping mad at Oswald right now, he doesn’t confront him on it at all.

Edward Nygma is a man who does not know himself hardly at all. He was so shocked by ENJOYING killing, not the murder itself, which was heavily premeditated, but the enjoyment of it, it drove him into a self-schism.

Ed has no schema for affection and Oswald’s love doesn’t manifest in cues Ed knows how to recognize. Ed has no way to read Oswald, nor to read his own attachment to Oswald because he cannot fathom this kind of romantic attraction, he had no idea it existed.

So, when Ed says, “You’re my best friend as well. Remember that.” He is telling the truth.

He is not emotionally savvy enough to manipulate Oswald this way

And deep down, Ed cannot kill him because he loves him. Ed knows this now. He can’t put words to it, he doesn’t know what it is, he can’t articulate it. But he knows he can’t kill him, doesn’t want to kill him, and this is the best way he can express it.

Not to say that he’s not MAD, not to say that everything he told Barbara isn’t ALSO true, and he’s going to DELIBERATELY AND WITH GREAT MALICE AFORETHOUGHT MAKE OSWALD’S LIFE A LIVING HELL. But… these two expressions are not mutually exclusive. Especially in the mind of a poor Edward Nygma who cannot parse emotions well enough to understand that hate stems from love.

But that doesn’t change the fact that Ed wanted Oswald to know, and to remember, that Ed considers him his best friend. Whatever Ed does now will be in that lens for Oswald. No matter what shit Ed pulls, and BOY there will be a lot of it, Ed wants Oswald to remember that he’s his friend and to bank on that.

Arguably, this could be to paralyze Oswald so he won’t retaliate. But that requires a sophisticated amount of emotional manipulation for the one person Ed has ever truly loved. That requires deliberately breaking a man he couldn’t watch die.

We will see what happens, if Ed’s hatred and anger blinds him to the point that he would hurt Oswald like this. But… Ed didn’t have to say that. Ed could have left and still hurt him. Ed can do everything he’s about to do and it will still gut Oswald. But saying that… is a promise that he will come back. If Oswald can just wait, can sit there and take everything, and trust in Ed… the way Ed trusted him, so completely… then Ed will come back to him.

Because one day, in this long, violent, painful process, Ed is going to realize he’s in love with Oswald. That he’s been in love this whole time. That that’s the reason he’s doing all of this. And when he realizes it, he’ll come back. We just have to wait.