Tag: important

borderline-borderwhine:

hey can we stop demonizing people who like … fake interest in people

like yeah it’s one thing for someone to only want to be friends w/ someone because they’ll buy their coffee every day or because they have a pool or whatever bullshit or if they’re literally only interested in people for emotional investment they have no intention of reciprocating but like

people w/ low empathy (great example: ppl with szpd) often fake empathy and interest in people because they Have to. a lot of us get abused or further demonized when we are open about the fact that we have low to no empathy or that we don’t. care about making friends or whatever and so we have to fake it! all the time! and that’s not our fault! and if sometimes our inability to use that fake empathy to be there for someone else to support them emotionally lapses that’s also. not our fault. it happens to people who experience more empathy and/or neurotypicals all the time so why. is it any different for us to just need a break from other people’s issues. we don’t always have the energy to deal w/ our own problems let alone others so when posts go around saying “if u aren’t there for someone unconditionally” or “don’t pretend to like people” it’s damaging to those of us who can’t Not pretend to be interested